Mother’s day 2015
Maybe it’s because it’s my Dad’s birthday or, maybe it’s because I can’t walk in a store and not cry, due to all the Mother’s Day ads. Today, I am missing my Mom AND Dad!
I wish I could gather those of us without parents and whisk us away until after Father’s Day. While I am thankful to celebrate the beautiful Mom-in-law that God gave me, there is always a void. I believe this goes for anyone who has lost one, or both, of their parents. I have lost both. They passed within a year of each other. My Mom to cancer and my Dad to a drunk driver.
If you grow up in this world as Nobody’s Child, it’s easy to lose your way. It flat out stinks to have no guidance or, a parent to talk to. This is what I would like to say to anyone who is experiencing these same feelings.
You ARE Somebody’s Child, you ARE God’s Child!
You can still talk to them. Listen to your heart. If you need/want to make a life changing decision or, need the advice of your parent, ask it out loud and listen to your heart. What you hear in your heart, is your Mother’s words. She is everywhere. You will see her in her favorite resturaunt, clothing store, the flowers you choose for your own garden, a photo on your wall that you bought because, you knew she would love it. You will hear her when you talk to your child, even when you scold them. You will see her hands attached to your arms and her face in the mirror, as you grow older. She will be in the beautiful, yellow butterfly that you see every single Spring and she will be in every decoration you choose for your Holidays. You will taste her mashed potatoes every time you make them or, any of her best recipes because, you will make them the same way. She is all around you and always will be. You can still honor her and celebrate her life. Take her flowers and tell her how you feel. It’s a HUGE benefit to your own soul. One thing I would suggest to anyone who has lost a parent, take time to grieve. You never get over it, you DO find a way to live with it. Find an inspirational read, such as,
BOTH are great! Even if you think you’re Nobody’s Child, you’re God’s Child so, go ahead & honor The Mom you never had, the Mom you long for, the Mom you do have or, the Mom you can’t be with, because of the miles between you. No matter the circumstance.
What I would say to somebody who has a Mom, or either parent is, never miss a chance to spend time with her. I know this world can be hectic & crazy but, MAKE time. Record your Mother’s voice, her laugh, especially if it’s a conversation between the two of you. Capture every moment that is special to you. Especially moments with your own children, her grandchildren. Keep all your photos in a safe place so you never have to live with only one picture of your Mom. Get your picture taken together, professionally. That would be a wonderful Mother’s day Gift, actually. A photo shoot! DO it!
If you feel you have a “Bad Mom”, pull your big girl pants up!! Mine was faaaaaaar from perfect but, I would give almost anything to sit and have lunch with her! I didn’t even know I felt that way, until I grew older and wiser. The bottom line is, our Mom’s are precious. They’re the reason we’re alive. Although I have tried to choose people to take her place, it’s NOT possible. I loved all of my “Fill in Moms” with all of me but, it never filled the void in my heart, for my own mama. Take this Mother’s Day to celebrate you and the Mom in your life.
To ALL of You
I wish you a beautifully blessed Mother’s Day in 2015 and, always. Make memories that you will treasure forever. Not just on Mother’s Day but, all year through! Laugh with those you love, cry if you need to and always…